Is the grass always greener on the other side of the fence? Most people will answer ‘no’ to this question. Yet we often want what we don’t have. And against better judgement, we sometimes hope that happiness lives on the other side of the fence too.
The commercial world thrives on selling happiness: it’s not the new phone, car or dress, but the dream of a better life that’s on offer. And we all fall for it, thinking that somehow we will be happier after the purchase.
The reason for this is that we’re not good at predicting what makes us happy. Unfortunately, happiness as a result of a treat, purchase, or even winning the lottery, is short-lived – probably less than three months. Spending money on others makes us happier than spending it on ourselves, according to a study published in Science magazine.
Interestingly, happy people enjoy themselves without expensive treats. One happiness study showed that it’s the simple, cost-free things in life that matter, like listening to music, reading a book, going swimming, or enjoying a hobby.
We can spend a lifetime searching for happiness, not knowing that it’s right on our doorstep – because we’re too busy looking at the grass on the other side of the fence.
What makes you happy? There’s a good chance that it’s an inexpensive, relaxing activity, or an act of kindness.